‘Friends forever’, right? As I look back on the year of 2014 I can’t help but sort of reflect on who I am. I believe that when it comes to friendships I am very precise. I am that girl who will judge you the first time and stick to that judgement. Now don’t get me mixed up with the judge a book by its cover type, because I am definitely not that girl. I just believe in first impressions, and believe me, if you aren’t my cup of tea, you never will be. Thus, friends are chosen very strictly. My Grade 7 teacher once told me:
Birds of a feather, flock together.
I believe that she was right. You can closely link friends with an individual. It’s in our speech, our walk and even our appearance. We spend so much time with our friends that (a) we rub off on eachother, picking up each others ways, and (b) we fail to distinguish between right and wrong when it comes to our ‘friends’.
For example, on multiple occasions have I judged someone for their actions, but lacked to notice my friends actions which were identical to those I’ve already looked at in a way of disapproval.
To get to the point of this post, my friendship group now consists of five close friends, girls who’ve been around for as long as I can remember. Now these girls aren’t all friends, they are acquainted, but all fall in different friendship groups. There are two factors that I can say they all have in common, (a) we’ve argued and gotten over it all together & (b) we share a huge amount of respect for each other which will mean that we’ll trust eachothers judgement and listen when advice is given. Along with these ladies, my friendship group consists of males, as to me they are the easier sex to be friends with (no inequality intended).
This year I lost a best friend, whom has been around now since 2011. She is a year younger than I am. I just want to say that sometimes, things don’t turn put the way we want it to, and the saying people change, it isn’t true. People grow, they revile their ‘true colours’. I believe that you can make changes in your life that influences your decisions, nothing more. To continue, I realised that the girl I thought I became friends with, wasn’t ‘real’. This further meant that my supposed first impression was wrong. Maybe it was the fact that we were younger and less exposed to the teenage life and it’s troubles. The thing is that after our first argument that we ever had, which was this year, 2014, we couldn’t get along anymore. She got angry at me, stopped seeing me, stopped messaging me, didn’t bother greeting me in the school passages & you know what? It hurt! It’s still hurting. Today she unfollowed me on instagram and I freaked out, sending my boyfriend a message which I would have sent her, but didn’t, in order to ‘vent’ and as they say let it all out. See I wasn’t angry that she unfollowed me, that’s childish, I was angry because it got to the point where we’d start to scoop low.
This was a long post and if you got through it, I thank you for your patience.
Pick your friends wisely.
Lower your expectations.
There’s no rule book for girls.
Be your own person.
Don’t follow a crowd.
sometimes good things fall apart for better things to fall in place
Posted by Knowing Kelly